Anger management
If you’re dealing with anger issues you might be tired of being labelled like a problem case. It seems to be a problem for everyone around you but it’s difficult to know what to do about it. You’ve been told to hold it in, but this obviously doesn’t work. You might wonder whether the problem lies in you or whether the people around you are just too sensitive.
If you are at the point of considering therapy, losing control of your anger is likely having a significant impact on your life and relationships. You might be worried that anger management will entail getting you to simply suppress and hold back your emotions. You might fear that attempts will be made to “domesticate you” in order to please the people around you and fit their expectation.
Nothing could be farther from the truth. Anger management involves understanding the source of your anger and how you can address the underlying issues that are causing it. You can learn how to be respected without lashing out. The goal is not to please those around you, but to help you enjoy your life and the relationships.
With some time you might discover that your anger is not a flaw, but a “guard” that protects you against situations or experiences that you don’t want to be in. We all need to feel in control of our emotions and of our destiny. When we grow up in less than ideal circumstances, we develop mechanisms to feel safe. Some people withdraw and become timid, some people become anxious and are constantly on alert, and some people protect themselves using their anger and aggression.
Later on in life, this strategy can stop being useful and end up being damaging to our well-being. In therapy, we can develop new approaches so you can feel in control without the need to lose your temper or push people away.
If you are at the point of needing support, please don’t put off getting started. Call or message me for a consultation.
If you are at the point of considering therapy, losing control of your anger is likely having a significant impact on your life and relationships. You might be worried that anger management will entail getting you to simply suppress and hold back your emotions. You might fear that attempts will be made to “domesticate you” in order to please the people around you and fit their expectation.
Nothing could be farther from the truth. Anger management involves understanding the source of your anger and how you can address the underlying issues that are causing it. You can learn how to be respected without lashing out. The goal is not to please those around you, but to help you enjoy your life and the relationships.
With some time you might discover that your anger is not a flaw, but a “guard” that protects you against situations or experiences that you don’t want to be in. We all need to feel in control of our emotions and of our destiny. When we grow up in less than ideal circumstances, we develop mechanisms to feel safe. Some people withdraw and become timid, some people become anxious and are constantly on alert, and some people protect themselves using their anger and aggression.
Later on in life, this strategy can stop being useful and end up being damaging to our well-being. In therapy, we can develop new approaches so you can feel in control without the need to lose your temper or push people away.
If you are at the point of needing support, please don’t put off getting started. Call or message me for a consultation.